If you weren't able to make this evening's circle, we discussed regrets and how we can learn from them. We used this article as a starting point for discussion: https://bronnieware.com/blog/regrets-of-the-dying/
This is an article I considered as a starting point for discussion on Regrets. I'll share it here instead. It calls into question Bronnie Ware's article/ book and challenges various points we've discussed. I think it is a very interesting read! It is difficult to read the title with the (unchangeable) text color: The Deathbed Fallacy.
thank you for the Utility of Regret. each week adds to my trove of information to dip into and also gives me a weekly experience of thinking, reflecting. time that has eluded me since I acquired a large family through marriage almost 30 years ago. the lack of time became more intense when Andy suffered a severe stroke 8 years ago.. so much time since the stroke has been spent in survival mode. that is changing. I feel heard (even if only by my self!) and supported each week.
So much to comment on here! explanation of 5 biggest regrets made them so much more meaningful. Interesting that information for book largely came from casual conversation. Not being a big conversationalist, I love the honesty that comes out when I'm on a road trip or just doing dishes with someone. It takes so much courage to express feelings. My expressions of hurt feelings have sometimes been scoffed at- but I still felt that great release. As Bronnie says- Being honest with yourself is more important than being heard!
Relating to The Deathbed Fallacy (also really appreciated)- I don't look back and say, I worked too much because by working long hours, I could afford to retire and pursue my pleasures. Teaching was my dad's idea because being an artist was not a real occupation. It was not my passion, but I never regretted that path. Money was never my goal, but it sure helps.
When it warms up, I'll wear my Happiness Is A Choice t-shirt. I got it during a student fundraiser. The student was born with multiple health and family problems. He was about 10 when he died. He was not defined by his disability. He allowed himself and those around him to be happy. He had the most positive spirit!
I did miss regrets session but was very sparked by the list. Maggie, is there a way we can continue to discuss regrets from another point of view. like forgiveness, perhaps it deserves more. thank you.
On Jan.6 we discussed the cost of death. I recently saw a fabulous 90 min. film on PBS' America Reframed series entitled The Invisible Patient. It chronicled the job of a traveling nurse practitioner http://invisiblepatients.com/
Tonight we revisited the topic of Regrets, this time with the addition of the Opportunity Principle. "Opportunity breeds regret". What do you think?
This is an article I considered as a starting point for discussion on Regrets. I'll share it here instead. It calls into question Bronnie Ware's article/ book and challenges various points we've discussed. I think it is a very interesting read! It is difficult to read the title with the (unchangeable) text color: The Deathbed Fallacy.
thank you for the Utility of Regret. each week adds to my trove of information to dip into and also gives me a weekly experience of thinking, reflecting. time that has eluded me since I acquired a large family through marriage almost 30 years ago. the lack of time became more intense when Andy suffered a severe stroke 8 years ago.. so much time since the stroke has been spent in survival mode. that is changing. I feel heard (even if only by my self!) and supported each week.
Here is a podcast with Bronnie Ware, author of the Five Regrets of the Dying! Have a listen:
https://www.resources.soundstrue.com/podcast/bronnie-ware-living-without-regrets/
I did miss regrets session but was very sparked by the list. Maggie, is there a way we can continue to discuss regrets from another point of view. like forgiveness, perhaps it deserves more. thank you.
Last night, we discussed Swedish Death Cleaning. Here are the links that sparked our conversation. What do you think?
On Jan.6 we discussed the cost of death. I recently saw a fabulous 90 min. film on PBS' America Reframed series entitled The Invisible Patient. It chronicled the job of a traveling nurse practitioner http://invisiblepatients.com/
Hope I linked this correctly.